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We can learn a lot from Oprah Winfrey’s bombshell interview of Harry and Meghan.

There are lessons in communication and feelings that apply to our relationships with others, in any context.

Communication

According to the response of Buckingham Palace, "Harry, Meghan and Archie will always be much loved family members."

According to Harry and Meghan, the “firm” is racist. It didn’t support Meghan when she was pilloried by the tabloids. In fact, according to Meghan, it spread falsehoods about her. It failed to offer guidance (or even permit her to seek professional help) when she was desperate and suicidal. Prince Charles stopped taking Harry’s calls. The relationship between Harry and his brother, William, is frayed.

Reconciling the position between these two sides seems impossible.

Based on my research, communication often breaks down when both sides seek to impose their agenda on each other. Typically, neither side attempts to explore why the difference exists. They’re too busy staking their turf.