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If you get dissed and dismissed by a client you want back, follow these five steps.

The decision to dump is usually fraught with confusion

Dumping your advisor usually isn’t a 100% clear decision. As long as you didn’t royally screw up, the dumper is likely in conflict about whether or not it is the right thing to do. They were confused, and debating back and forth for a long time before they cut the cord. Maybe they were taking you for granted a little bit, curious about what lies behind door #2, and then in comes the broker inviting them to Ruth Chris for a steak dinner seminar.

It is naively thought that emotions are static. They are not. Emotions flow like water. Being dumped by a client isn’t permanent. By making the right moves, you can make the right emotions flow again.

Follow these five steps.

  1. Laugh in their face as they dump you

If Antonio, my man, ever said he wanted to leave me, my response would be, “Ha ha. Here’s $2.75 and the next Brooklyn-bound A train should be here in 15 minutes.”

In the moment of being dumped, cockiness is 100% the way to go. You have nothing to lose – they just dissed you! At least salvage some of your self-esteem.