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Therapists and accountants are valuable resources. They have confronted the issues we experience during our lives. I like to tap into their expertise and find out what works and what doesn’t. There are also many other benefits of therapy, like help with anxiety and depression.

But that’s not why I’m recommending you see a therapist.

Learn from their model

You can learn a lot from the therapeutic model. They get paid for their services, as do you. They offer a safe haven to divulge your deepest secrets and will accept you no matter what. They also provide the three key qualities in any healthy relationship. These qualities are:

  1. Accessibility: Your therapist will, absent some extraordinary circumstances, be available to see you at the appointed hour.
  1. Responsiveness: Your therapist isn’t just “available.” She’s “responsive” and totally focused on your issues. You can pour out your heart and ask her anything, confident she will listen, not interrupt, respond to any questions and always act solely in your best interest. Your therapist has no conflicts of interest. She doesn’t get paid more for dispensing one kind of advice over another.
  1. Emotional engagement: Your therapist creates an emotional bond by showing a genuine, sincere interest in what you are saying. She will ask follow-up questions and probe deeper where appropriate. She is probably unique in your relationships in the intensity of interest she demonstrates. Who else has made observations like these: Tell me more about that. How did that make you feel? Have you had similar experiences? What did you learn from that incident?